Being late – the knock on effect

It’s the Bride’s perogative to be late, right? Well, if you insist but aside from the fact that it’s rude to keep everyone waiting (especially your future husband who’ll be […]

It’s the Bride’s perogative to be late, right? Well, if you insist but aside from the fact that it’s rude to keep everyone waiting (especially your future husband who’ll be having kittens thinking that you might just have changed your mind), being late to the church or ceremony can have a major knock-on affect on the subsequent timings.

If you are 20 mins late for the church (for example), you will end up being 20 mins late back to the reception. Your caterers will be working to a carefully planned schedule based around the time you are due to come into the wedding breakfast after your drinks reception. It is often very tricky for caterers to adjust these timings once the ball is rolling. As a result, if you are 20 minutes late back to the reception your reception may well have to be 20 minutes shorter. If your drinks is 90 mins (see other ‘timings’ posts) this tardiness will reduce it to 70 mins which just won’t feel long enough.

If your caterers/venue can be flexible because you are late they might be able to delay the wedding breakfast to allow you to have the full amount of time in the drinks reception. The best venues will be able to do this and make it look like it’s easy. However, putting the wedding breakfast back might present other problems further down the line. If you have evening guests coming you will find that they arrive during the wedding breakfast/speeches as you are effectively running late. Your band or DJ will arrive to set up but might not be able to and you will have a shorter evening, though this is less of a factor.

All I’m saying is that if you are going to be late to the church/ceremony just be aware of the implications.

If you are late, think about the following…

  • If the bride is going to be more than 15 mins late to the church, someone should call the caterers/venue to let them know. This will really help them. Make sure the best man or an usher has the appropriate phone numbers.
  • If the caterers/venue can be flexible and push the WB back then fine but Chef will be swearing at you behind your back so make an effort to go and say thank you at some point!
  • If you are having a civil ceremony, remember that the registrars may well have another ceremony to go to after yours. If you are overly late (15 mins +) for yours then they might have to cut bits out (like readings) to ensure that they are not late for their next wedding. In this instance your tardiness is not only affecting your day but also someone elses which isn’t really on if you ask me.

The bottom line is TRY NOT TO BE LATE! It’ll make life much easier…