Between Church & Reception

Congratulations! You’ve just got married, you’ve pretty much run back down the aisle and out into the big wide world for the first time as a married couple. But what […]

Congratulations! You’ve just got married, you’ve pretty much run back down the aisle and out into the big wide world for the first time as a married couple. But what happens next? This is often a little part of the day that no one ever thinks about but can be quite important…

  • As you leave the church the photographer will almost certainly want to take your photo in the church door. This is ‘a classic’ wedding image and a bit of a must-have especially for all those mums and dads out there. It’s probably one of 3 wedding photos that they have so there is a nice continuity there. The photos should only take about 20 seconds but if you dont do it you risk the wrath of your mum!
  • I would adivse against having any family group photos at the church. It slows things down and they are almost always better done during the drinks reception.
  • Move away from the church door so your guests can start to leave the church.
  • Your parents, ushers and bridesmaids will be the first ones out. They will all want to congratulate both of you. Let this happen.
  • If you stand outside the church door everyone will file past you to offer their congrats. This sounds great but it will result in your guests queuing to get out of the church and the whole thing will turn into an inappropriate receiving line and take ages- valuable drinking time wasted.
  • Once you have said hi to your immediate family start to move towards your car. This is often down a path towards a lychgate. For ideas on the confetti moment see this post.
  • Get back to the reception and do your chatting there. I never understand why people spend ages outside the church chatting after the wedding. If you want to do this write this into your timings. Stay and chat for a bit, but then allow everyone to get back to the reception by leaving the church fairly quickly. They won’t go anywhere until you do. This takes a bit of discipline and might feel weird but it everyone will thank you for it in the long run. Remember, wedding guests generally just want to know where their next food and drink are coming from.
  • If the church bells have stopped and you are still at the church you have stayed way to long.