Getting Married – it’s not an exam

I know it’s easy for me to say but try not to be too nervous about the actual ‘getting married’ bit. Controlled nerves are a good thing and show that […]

I know it’s easy for me to say but try not to be too nervous about the actual ‘getting married’ bit. Controlled nerves are a good thing and show that you appreciate the magnitude of what you are both about to do. Getting married is a big deal. Having said that, irrational flapping about wont help anyone so try to keep things in perspective. The nerves you have are good nerves – they are not like pre-exam nerves. YOU CANT FAIL!

here are some reasons for being nervous that i hear all the time…

  1. “Everyone will be looking at me” – deal with it. you are the bride! you’ve got the dress, the hair and make-up are done and you are looking great! You know everyone’s going┬áto look at you – surely that’s one of the reasons you’ve gone to all the┬átrouble before the wedding? enjoy being the centre of attention.
  2. “I just hope it all goes according to plan.” – at some point you have to let the whole thing go. if you dont, you’ll miss your own wedding because you’re worrying about it. You have done everything you can to make sure the day is great for everyone. The best weddings are always organised to within an inch of their lives and then everyone involved lets go and allows the day take on it’s own shape and momentum. It’s not easy but you wont regret it.
  3. “What if i get my words wrong” – if you do, so what? It’s not a test. The vicar/registrar will guide you through everything. Listen to what you are saying and say it to eachother.
  4. “I’m worried that i’ll cry during the vows.” – let it out! crying is no problem. if you’re not emotional then something’s wrong! Boys, that includes you too.

If it all gets too much just take a step back and remember what it is you are doing and why you are doing it. If you’re still nervous, just go with it. All your nerves will disappear the moment you get married and the day will just sweep you along after that ;0)