Give yourselves a breather

If you dont manufacture time together you’ll hardly see eachother all day. I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to create moments during the day where you […]

If you dont manufacture time together you’ll hardly see eachother all day. I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to create moments during the day where you can be together, have a breather and take stock of the day. Luckily there are several naturally occuring moments that do the trick without impacting negatively on anything or anyone.

  1. Straight after the church/civil ceremony.

After church you’ll probably jump in the car and head back to the reception venue. 9 times out of 10 you will be the first ones back, well before all your guests. For a civil ceremony, lead everyone out of the ceremony room and if everyone is supposed to turn left, you turn right. Church or Civil – This is the moment to disappear for 10 mins preferably outside somewhere.

  • It’s the first time that you have seen eachother properly. Yeah, there’s the blur of the ‘getting married’ bit but now your married. Relief, excitement, happiness – share that moment together.
  • Your guests are still probably faffing about trying to find the venue etc. You can stand in the reception venue talking to the bar staff if you want but wouldnt it be better to go for a wander around? It’s dead time that is put to good use and you havent had to drag yourselves away from the party becasue it hasnt started yet.
  • If you stand there waiting for your guests they will form an orderly queue to say hello to you both and suddenly you’ve got the dreaded receiving line. Get out of the way for 10 mins and let you guests arrive and get themselves a drink. let’s face it, it’s all their interested in anyway – we’ve all been there.
  • When you’re done you come back to where everyone is having a drink and the place is full of smiley, happy people (all of whom you know – weird!) and it will look and feel great.

I recommend this to every couple i photograph and use this little breather to get some photos of the couple together. It works really well for the bride and groom and for me. They get some time together at a natural break in proceedings and i get lots of smiley photos of a newly married couple before their cheeks start aching from smiling too much. By the way, i really keep my distance otherwise it kind of defeats the object.

2. As everyone goes in for the wedding breakfast

This is a great moment to sneak off. The call goes up announcing the wedding breakfast. It will take about 20 mins to get everyone inside and to their seats. You’ll almost certainly get announced ito the room/marquee last. That gives you 15 mins for another little breather and 5 mins for ‘powdering your nose’ before you’re back into the thick of it. Remember, you wont have even seen eachother during the drinks reception so it’s a good chance to catch up with what’s been going on etc.

Weddings are crazy for the bride and groom. Everyone wants a piece of you and you’re the centre of attention. This can be tiring so use these natural breaks to gather your thoughts and spend some time together. I work really hard to facilitate this for the couples i photograph. I would only ever suggest anything like this if it was in the couple’s best interests. The fact that i benefit as a photographer is a bonus.

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