Confetti – how?

Before i go on i should point out that i am a happily married, heterosexual man. Knowing lots about confetti at weddings isnt exactly cool and it isnt something i normally shout from the rooftops but here goes anyway!

Confetti really only works if you are getting married in church. It is a lot less natural at a civil cermony and can sometimes look like you’re faking things. So, for the most part, i am going to assume you are getting married in church. Here are some things to think about…

  1. Do you want a confetti moment? It is a classic wedding photo and can be a great feeling if it is done properly. If in doubt, go for it.
  2. Check with the vicar. If they allow confetti they will almost certainly insist on it being a) bio-degradable and b) thrown outside the church grounds so someone else has to clear it up – not exactly a thoughtful Christian attitude but there you go. I once asked a vicar if he was happy for the guests to throw confetti and he said “Yes! Its a sign of life!”. I love that vicar.
  3. Provide confetti for your guests. Dont rely on them to bring their own. Three ladies of the ‘older generation’ will bring some and it will all look and feel a bit half hearted.
  4. There are three main types of confetti. In reverse order of preference they are as follows…

– Dried petals or ‘pot purri’. This seems to be the most popular but i think is the worst form of confetti. It’s a bit like having a waste paper basket thrown all over you. If it is a hot day a good portion of it will stick to your ‘glowing brow’ and you’ll still be picking it out of places you didnt even know you had long into your honeymoon. It doesnt show up very well on the photos either.

– Fresh petals – these are expensive and will go up and come straight back down again which isnt great for the photo op. Pros – easy to pick out of your hair etc. Cons – relatively expensive and they dont flutter about.

– Good old fashioned paper confetti. This is all bio-degradable now as long as it doesnt have little plastic bits in it etc. You can get every colour under the rainbow so you can match it with your colour scheme. It will flutter about on the breeze and look and feel great. It is easily brushed off you and looks nice even if it doesnt. This is by far the best bet.

How do you do it?

  1. Provide LOADS of confetti loose in 2 nice looking baskets or metal buckets or something. Cones with confetti in them look nice but they’re not great when it comes to it.
  2. Get the bridesmaids and ushers to hand it out as guests leave the church. They grab a handful and are asked to wait for further instructions.
  3. Either tuck yourselves round a corner and have a ‘quiet moment’ (but remember you’re in a churchyard!) whilst your guests line up either side of the church path OR lead everyone down the path to the gate where they can gather around you. The latter is more natural. The former will require some organisation.
  4. If you come down the path with your guests either side they will throw it at you as you pass. I think it is better for everyone to gather round and throw it at once. The photographer is the obvious person to be in control of this. A simple “1, 2, 3, throw!” will suffice. You get covered and before you know it you’re in your car and off for a well earned drink at the reception.
  5. You can still do it in the rain but you’ll have to be quick. See a couple of the photos above.

Not important? Too much detail? I once shot a couple who had a purple theme to their wedding so they had fresh lavender confetti. The guests obediently lined the church path and pelted them with lavender as they walked down to the car. Most of the lavender had turned to dust with which they were duly plastered. She spent 40 minutes of the 90 minute drinks reception having it removed from her face and her make-up reapplied.

The confetti can affect your day people!